Dear girls, be intensely wary of men considerably older than you obsessed with “mentoring” you. They’re most likely trying to groom you. Speaking from experience.
I want to make it clear I’m not just speaking to underage/teen girls. Any younger girl, and this can happen to not that young women as well.
Just because the guy isn’t technically a pedophile, doesn’t make him any less predatory. When you’re in your 20s you may not be a kid anymore, but you’re not fully developed as an adult either. You’re still vulnerable to predators who have the advantage of more experience and thus tools you don’t yet have, in addition to the other advantage of power imbalance due to gendered relations.
A man who wants to be your mentor, especially if he says he wants to “shape” you or anything similar, is a man who’s trying to turn you into his puppet, to make you “develop” (be molded) into the girl/woman that serves his pleasure, even if not directly sexual.
There’s predators who get off on the intellectual performance of the younger female objects of their obsessions. There’s predators who get off on your social development fitting their not-necessarily sexual fantasies. There’s predators who get off on the idea of taking a depressed girl and becoming her “savior”.
There’s people who get off to feet and fucking statues, you best believe there’s predators who get immense satisfaction from mental games against vulnerable girls/women even if they’re not (directly) sexual. And even if those things aren’t sexual at all to you, it will fuck you up. Because you’ll know or feel that you’re being used against your will, that you’re not being treated as a human, you’ll feel trapped, you’ll feel controlled, you’ll feel hopeless and disgusted with what he’s turning you into.
It’s about control, it’s about possession, it’s about ownership of who you are, it’s about having the perfect doll to play with.
It’s about you becoming mentally, emotionally, intellectually, socially dependent on them. It’s about a boost of their egos.
Regardless of your age, but especially if you’re considerably younger than him, and you see signs of him being fixated on this, RUN AS SOON AS YOU CAN.
Can people reblog this version? Because I’m tired of people who supposedly care about abuse victims dropping any concern and compassion for female victims of grooming as soon as a girl turns 18 like she wasn’t a literal kid five minutes ago.
It has been brought to my attention that there are underaged RPers and Tumblr users are purposefully finding adult users and getting them in trouble with smut. Because they find it funny.
I want to clarify something; no way in any shape or form is this FUNNY. This is the worst thing you can do to someone. If the Authorities are involved? They’re put on the sex offenders registry and their ENTIRE LIVES ARE FUCKING RUINED, all because you thought it was funny.
Do you have any idea what happens to them with that? It’s not a temporary thing, guys. It is FOR. LIFE. They are not allowed near schools, churches, theme parks, community projects, rec centers, public parks, or ANY OTHER PUBLIC PLACE WHERE CHILDREN FREQUENT. Some even include Grocery stores and shopping centers.
IF they are caught in the areas listed above? They’re put in prison, no questions ask and generally DO NOT get out.
They are satellite tracked, have probation for the rest of their lives, and some states are even pushing to ban social media sites for them.
So this is fucked up, you guys. There is NOTHING funny about getting people in LEGAL trouble because they interacted with a minor here. It’s fucked up, you’re fucked up for putting someone through that hell and there’s so much more to it, I can’t even begin to consider.
UPDATE OCT 19, 2018: Based on community feedback, the opt-out window has been extended to 90 days. Also, this now only applies to users in the United States.
I got charged for something that I canceled in the first place, which left me with negative money. But my bank has a policy where if you have negative money they charge you 30 dollars of money that you DONT have. Then apparently, if you don’t pay it back in 4 days, they take MORE money from you.
So now I have -70 dollars in my bank account and no way to pay it and they’re just gonna keep taking money from me.
I hate asking for help and I know that this will probably just get a few likes and then you’ll move on… but please. Please. I really need help. Buy a commission, donate to my ko-fi… I just need a little.
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