good parents dont hit their children.
good parents dont touch their children inappropriately.
good parents dont scream at their children.
good parents dont manipulate their children.
good parents dont imprison their children at home.
good parents dont threaten their children.
good parents dont starve their children.
good parents dont harass their children.
good parents do not abuse their children.
in case you don’t know weather to reblog this:
This makes me realize several uncomfortable things about my childhood.
Wait the screaming thing isn’t a normal thing?
Apparently not
Omg my poor babies, as a CHAD major let me lay it out for you.
Occasional “im human and im frustrated” yelling happens. Those are usually followed by apologies and genuine effort not to do that again.
But if your parent/guardian is always SCREAMING at you, especially as a way to control or make you feel inferior (insults, threats, things they know make you subdue and guilty) THIS IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE. if they are purposely contorting your emotions as a method to control that is abuse.
If someone hits, kicks, slaps, or beats you (not just a gentle nonsexual spank on the butt) THIS IS PHYSICAL ABUSE, ESPECIALLY IF IT LEAVES A BRUISE, CUT ABRAISION, ETC.
If adults are making you dance in a manner to be sexual, do sexual things, or watch sexual things inappropriate for your age THIS IS SEXUAL ABUSE. it is not always touching your/someone else’s private areas (which is ALSO abuse.)
If your parent or guardian is depriving you of things that are essential for life (food, water, shelter, weather appropriate clothes, hygiene, medical) and it is not just a “we are literally too broke to get these things but im really trying ” THIS IS NEGLECT AND IS ABUSE.
Talk to a teacher or trusted adult. Anyone in a human service setting (educators, administration, health, etc) especially those in a child/ adolescent arena are MANDATED REPORTERS: they MUST tell CPS there is a problem. If you are in immediate danger be explicit: they will call 911 to keep you safe.
This is SO fucking important please be safe my peeps.
i dont normally reblog commentary on my “big posts” because i worry about page stretching, but this is a good addition.
and, i know, talking to someone about this kinda shit is like? absolutely terrifying. calling the police is terrifying, especially when youve been groomed to believe that you will never have anyone in your life who “will care for you” like your parents.
trust me, good lord fucking trust me, i know. my followers have heard me LAMENT before about how my parents abused me. i never said anything growing up, and in the end i ran away. now im safe.
its still fucking terrifying, even as an adult. i have terrible ptsd because of my them. id been conditioned by them to believe abuse was normal, and no one had ever told me otherwise.
some part of me, i guess, knew it was wrong, but i was too scared to ever say anything.
please be safe. sometimes calling authorities isnt enough. get proof of the abuse. take photos, videos (if you can), record audio on your phone (use the voice recorder, or memo option, hide your cellphone). go to a teacher, or a counselor. CONFIDE in a trusted adult first. school fucking blows but there are RESOURCES there specifically MADE FOR YOU. college, high school, middle school, elementary school – all of it. if you contact cps, there will be an investigation, and if you lack evidence then you lack a case and thats not ALWAYS what happens but i know there are horror stories out there and a cruel reality. dont give your abusers the opportunity to sweet talk the police, or your teachers.
i know theyve told you that nobody else cares, and that you feel like theres no escape or that they might hurt you worse if you tell people what theyve done – they CANT hurt you like they threaten they can. theyre not good parents, and you have tons of online support, child/domestic services, and resources at your fingertips to take them down. you can get protection and your resources will find people to shelter you.
The Perfect Scientist 